I agree with matteo,
Confidence is
the key. But that's easier said than accomplished. Few things you can do to gain more confidence:
1) Get active. Check out mags like Men's Health and start hitting the gym, running, playing tennis, whatever. Just get active. Participate in some kind of sport or physical activity and make this a life-long habit.
2) Do the best you can with what you have. Losing your hair (or lost most of it already)? Then get a close-cropped hair cut, dress sharp, then don't worry about your looks. Worrying is half the problem.
3) Join some kind of a group or club that encourages you to speak publicly. This will really help the confidence levels.
4) DON'T BE DESPARATE! This is the surest sign to a woman that you are insecure. Instead of thinking about what how the woman thinks you look, turn things around... By that I a mean make HER the focus of YOUR attention silly! Don't be obnoxious or pretentious. Here's a method I used that worked very well in my single days (because it's sincere, and it focuses the attention on the woman and not YOU). Most women (and people in general) have something that they are a bit insecure about, or self-conscious about... Just look at yourself and how worried you are about your hair loss. In a social setting, observe the prospective woman that you want to approach. Does she have a nice smile but rarely uses it? Find what it is that she is self-conscious about, then when the opportunity comes to talk to her, let her know that you have a weakness for that specific trait! If she has a nice smile, let her know this! Tell her that you can't resist a smile like hers. She can't help but smile... then whenever she smiles, every now and then say something like "please, stop torturing me! I can't resist that smile"... Trust me... this worked for me a lot. Again, the point is to focus on HER not YOU. Don't be a dumbass, if the woman doesn't respond, move on. Be a gentleman. Make her laugh. That's 90% of the work. The rest is all gravy.
Don't be like this:
Be like this:
and like this:
And be careful not to be like this:
Regards,
Sam
